SafetyHarassment is not tolerated here.
We are a relaxed community more concerned with honest opinion and integrity than political correctness. But maturity and respect are always required. Name-calling, threats, shaming, bullying, and fake accounts are all forms of harassment.
Repetitive messages are also harassment, so if someone tells you they don't want to be messaged again, any further contact can get you gagged or banned from the site. Likewise, if you wish for someone to not contact you again, please be sure you actually tell them so; Almost all issues are caused by simple miscommunication.
Speak up! Flag any content you feel is inappropriate, as it alerts us and permanently notates the other user's account for posterity. If anyone makes you feel a little uncomfortable for any other reason, please contact us so we can review that user's actions with you and others around the site, because sometimes intuitions are right. We do not have an individual user blocking feature on our inbox, because an admin will block the user site-wide instead, or even remove the user's account or block their IP address at the server level id necessary. For this reason, having the site admin handing all the blocking is much more effective, and as well as prevents retaliation to the victim.
All new site accounts belonging to females come with certain social features turned off by default, such as private chat, non-friend inboxing, and the wam party. They can be turned on later.
Please beware that this site and its content are of a sexual nature, and have been for decades. People and models regularly post content that runs the gamut of sexuality. Within that context, visitors and fans often engage with models and users to make requests and comments--sometimes sexual. As such, we need to take an intelligent approach to our boundaries for what is harassment, as they are a bit different from a plain site: Single comments or requests to perform a sexual act, for example, would not automatically be considered harassment unless the person kept asking repeatedly, or after being denied, or if it was violent, etc. Every flag and complaint becomes a part of the user's permanent record, so context will always be available to moderators and admin to make an informed decision on user intent.Approaching the Models
Models may appear in erotic content, they might happen to portray sexual deviants, and they may even entitle scenes something like "naughty wam slut bitches." This is a sexual fantasy site and producers have the freedom to shoot that content and label it as such. But do not confuse the character in the scene with the model playing it. When addressing models and other users, you must treat them just like a normal person and not presume that they are there just to fill your every sexual fantasy. Though this is a fetish site, inappropriate contact is still considered harassment, and action will be taken.Watch What You Post
Please be reminded that content that you post here is public, and will be seen by many people. Search engines can access it and once it's on the internet, it is indelible. We have many privacy options, but once you post content for public consumption, we cannot control what other users do with it. So use extra judgement when you post. Watch the information you give out on the Personals and other forums and chat, and be very vigilant when attempting to meet people. We can't be held accountable for any events that arise from contacts made on or because of this site.Watch What You Buy
Our linking out to sites in the directory, forums, and other locations does not denote endorsement of those sites. This site cannot be held responsible for purchases not made here, including paid orders that have not been fulfilled, pay-sites that do not meet your expectations, and credit card or other types of fraud. We make a reasonable effort to keep the clearly illegitimate sites out of our database, but there is no substitute for doing your own research and finding out who is reputable. It is not advised that you pay for goods by money order, or any other type of payment with which you could not get your money back if things turn sour. Any producer offering custom work must be listed on our Trusted Customs Producers list, or else they are working against this site's rules; Do not do business with them.
Moderator / Group Host Guidelines
Some very dedicated people have been here long enough to understand the larger picture of what makes this culture tick. They have been given the ability to take specific corrective actions as necessary, but they understand that the top goal is always to keep it fun and peaceful, not oppressive and intimidating. We are here to help those who don't quite understand our ways, and to help those who don't respect the rules understand why they are in place.
A moderator's task is to set the tone and keep it fun. It is ineffective to only kick and ban and publicly admonish offenders, because everyone hates to be corrected. Treat each member like a guest at your party, and don't say anything you wouldn't speak to their face. Discreetness is key: Use inboxing for primary communication and only leave a public response if you think it would be of value to the site itself and to the tens of thousands of other people who will read it. Avoid outright deleting posts and content unless it is extremely clear that the person is shirking the rules on purpose or has a history of doing so; Otherwise just flag them for the owner's review. A very few number of people are "unreachable" and will still need to be removed from the site, but this is a very rare occurrence, and the threat of it happening is not a moderation tool.
People make mistakes and have bad days, but most of us are essentially good people with different viewpoints. Everyone thinks they are doing the right thing at the time they are doing them, and from their perspective and limited information, they probably are. Our strategy is to get people on the same page with how this site operates, and why. Never berate a user or quote our rules at them! Instead, try to "overstand" their reasons, then fill them in with the additional information that they were missing. Treating people like humans is proven to prevent blowback and escalation from humiliated users. Because thousands of people are watching, the tone set by from moderators affects how everyone else speaks to each other on this site, publicly and privately.
Do not create new or sticky threads just to remind people of the rules. Those posts are not only junky but fleeting, and we prefer more permanent and comprehensive solutions; Contact the site owner if you have ideas or think something is important to get out.
It's important to respect the gender identity of all users, especially when it differs from one's biological gender, or assigned sex. But also understand that this is an extremely visual website, and that physical appearance is how most of our users expect things to be organized and presented. So by default we will categorize and moderate content based on the perceived biological gender. That is overridden when the user has specified themselves as a different gender on their profile. This way we respect them and their content as that gender, even if they are obviously the biological opposite.